Comments on: The Bizarre Origins of 8 Wedding Traditions

By: EspressoLaine

EspressoLaine — Mon, 19 Sep 2011 18:14:53 +0000

I’m pleased to have my father “giving me away”. Relationships that are intended to last are built on love and respect – to give me away to another man, for my dad, is to pass on that legacy to my new relationship.

When you’ve had a dad that loves you and has done his best to help you be all that you can, and when all your life he’s been the “biggest” man in your life, why is it so “backward” or “proprietary” for him to acknowledge that another man must, of necessity and choice, become a greater priority to you?

Giving the bride away, like the marriage ceremony itself, is a humble acknowledgement of the love and honor that a strong relationship is made of. I pity the brides who can’t say the same of their dads, or, like *anonymous* who might have had that kind of relationship but don’t have their dads anymore.

Even if your dad has made a lot of mistakes in your relationship, it is only respectful to allow him his traditional place in the ceremony. If you want to add mom, that’s awesome. But don’t leave him out because it’s a “silly tradition”.

By: Lesley Pattinson

Lesley Pattinson — Mon, 05 Sep 2011 09:33:27 +0000

Really enjoyable post!

By: Kate

Kate — Thu, 18 Aug 2011 02:17:34 +0000

From the parts that I read, this is such crap. People never crowded around to watch the couple sleep together. And in western civilization at least, brides were not considered just property.

By: Lisa

Lisa — Wed, 06 Jul 2011 14:20:46 +0000

It was interesting, but it sounds like someone’s just a little bitter about tradition. Present the information, sure, but why go the ten steps further by proclaiming traditions which no longer have those negative connotations to be barbaric and misogynistic when, in fact, they’re simply nice and/or (dare I say?) FUN observances?

By: Katie

Katie — Tue, 29 Mar 2011 03:14:01 +0000

My family doesn’t throw rice at weddings because my great great grandmother got a kernel of rice stuck in her ear and spent her wedding night in the hospital trying to get it out.

By: Megan

Megan — Sun, 13 Mar 2011 18:29:53 +0000

Wow, just wow! Some of the meanings behind those traditions are bizarre to say the least.

I agree with the many previous posts that suggest to not follow some traditions. So many brides want to do what’s “expected”.

Why? It’s not their wedding, it’s YOURS!

By: Calli Arcale

Calli Arcale — Thu, 10 Feb 2011 21:53:46 +0000

Dammit, Kate, you beat me to the TARDIS reference.

I don’t cry at weddings, and almost never at movies. Yet I cried at that scene in “The Big Bang”, as she stands up and starts explaining about her Raggedy Doctor, to the chagrin of the wedding guests, goes on into the “something borrowed, something blue”, and then the wind whips up, and . . . oh, I’m choked up again.

By: Heather

Heather — Wed, 09 Feb 2011 20:33:19 +0000

I’ll be getting married in July, and while we did scrap some of the traditions–no veil for me!, no dances (no alcohol), no frozen cake–we also kept some… the bouquet and garter toss, which I don’t think is creepy, but rather fun (which by the way, all the garters I’ve seen have been closer to the knee, not the personal areas the article alluded too), and my dad WILL walk me down the aisle. I’m his baby girl!

By: Nick Leback

Nick Leback — Wed, 09 Feb 2011 17:25:12 +0000

Bogus, bogus, bogus.

Really? You believe this?

Creative, yes. True, no.

By: Kat

Kat — Wed, 09 Feb 2011 17:17:04 +0000

I`m Filipino, and at every wedding I`ve been to you get all these traditions PLUS a part where the couple kneel or sit together and get:
A giant veil to cover both the bride and the groom
A cord that ties the two together (seriously)