Comments on: The Nightmare(s) of Single Womanhood

By: Heather

Heather — Fri, 19 Feb 2010 19:56:02 +0000

No boyfriend = Nightmares. I actually googled single and nightmares to see if any other woman has this same problem. Not that I was even living with the dude.. Its just that when I dont have a significant other (male) to focus my daily attention on… I think my own reality catches up to me at night. HATE IT!!! Happens instantly after a breakup and stops instantly once my focus starts to turn to someone who shows intrest.

By: D

Fri, 12 Sep 2008 16:08:55 +0000

I agree, when I was younger and my parents first got divorced I use to have the same nightmare almost every month for a while. I would dream that my parents got back together and forced me to move into a tiny cramped apartment with them above the old movie theatre in town. To top it off I would freak out and run out to my car to leave and the auto repair place, which was right across the parking lot, would mistake my car for one of their customers and it would always be missing something like a driver’s door so that I couldn’t drive it. A little wierd!

By: GTT

GTT — Fri, 12 Sep 2008 14:53:31 +0000

For me itÂ´s a trade-off. I usually do have very vivid nightmares (usually involves being chased by all manner of badies) and wake up feeling completely drained. On the nights I do sleep with my fiance, I cant remember any bad dreams. HOWEVER, I usually do wake in the night to check the time and getting back to sleep with him snoring next to me is not easy…

By: Carol

Carol — Fri, 12 Sep 2008 06:43:17 +0000

OK, so it is 1:39 am and I have woken up out of a sound sleep – and I am a married woman so I don’t think I sleep deeper than when I was single. Of course I am 50 and have been having bad sleep for several years now. During the day on the weekend I can go to sleep for 6 hours – my husband is golfing so I’m alone except for the cat. And I have such bad nightmares some nights that I wake my husband up with my screaming. I think it is the hormones and will be more than glad when these nasty things subside long enough to let me sleep at night again. I average 4 hours a night during the week so by Friday I don’t need to be making many decisions at the office!

By: Christi

Christi — Fri, 12 Sep 2008 02:47:18 +0000

@ crovenpaver… Yeah, but you can usually only get by with waking him up once or twice to check on those false alarms before he starts to doubt you & tell you to go back to sleep.

In the past month I’ve woken up from dead sleeps thinking that someone was trying to break into my house or my bf’s house…sometimes many times in one night. And this is sleeping in the same bed as my bf every night. But I trace my “crazies” (as we call it) back to kids in the street dumping trash cans one early morning & my fire alarm battery dying and talking to me (that was fun to explain after I called 911).

Aside from the recent crazies, I do remember having vivid nightmares more when I was single. Now when I do sleep, it’s pretty soundly with the aforementioned exceptions.

By: NicoNicoNico

NicoNicoNico — Thu, 11 Sep 2008 23:06:07 +0000

That is so true. Near that time of the month, I tend to have terribly vivid dreams that leave me feeling sleepy all day. Like right now, I’m dizzy as all hell because I had that one railroad dream again. Bah, damn moon and its phases.

By: Orange

Orange — Thu, 11 Sep 2008 22:58:50 +0000

I sleep better if I’m alone in bed. I snore like a semi down-shifting on the highway, and if a guy is next to me I become hyper-aware and can’t relax. I can’t remember the last time I had a nightmare.

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By: Miss Cellania

Miss Cellania — Thu, 11 Sep 2008 22:44:23 +0000

I don’t remember my dreams at all, but I sure do have insomnia!

By: justin

justin — Thu, 11 Sep 2008 19:42:24 +0000

30% is not 1 in 3 people. You’re leaving out an entire 10% if you use that logic.

By: Lisa

Lisa — Thu, 11 Sep 2008 18:52:56 +0000

I’m a single, never been married 44-year-old woman. I can report that, with a bed partner, I sleep like the dead. However, the poor man usually can’t sleep in the same bed with me due to hot flashes! Without someone in bed, which is the norm, I have vivid, strange and disturbing dreams. Menopause doesn’t help with it’s curse of the hot flashes (internal combustion). This past year I have had some of the strangest, scariest and most disturbing dreams I’ve ever had.