Comments on: The sex lives of smart folk

By: LandyRue

LandyRue — Thu, 12 Feb 2009 15:38:00 +0000

So I know that this comment is coming in really late to the game but I was doing research on the subject and ran across this post. I don’t think that this is a fair assessment. I’m very intelligent (a member of Mensa) and as a teen, I never studied because I never had to. Everything came naturally to me and so with all that free time, I was a very sexually active teenager and college student. I’m not the only case- look at Asia Carrera!

By: sexkitten

sexkitten — Thu, 21 Feb 2008 21:17:56 +0000

in highschool i had sex everyday. my bf and i would sneak into the girls room @ lunch we always took the last stall! p.s. someone want sex tonight?

By: yas

yas — Thu, 21 Feb 2008 20:32:54 +0000

the smarter folks tend to lack social skills (i know this from a hell’ov an experience!)
i also think that cuz smart ppl hav this ‘altered’ level of socializin, they can do many ‘gifted’ things, like they can be masters at chess, cleverest in debate, the wittiest girl-pullers etc, get the best grades – that def indicates high IQ. but that also requires resources like money, looks, atleast some friends. a genius cud initially hav been a tramp lookin ahead on a strugglin road toward financial security & some family assurrance. thats to say they wer smart enuf to also sacrifice the ‘less’ or ‘common’ things that ‘most other ppl do’ such as premarital sex then lower jobs.
overall, yes its to do with IQ but also resources..

By: Nick

Nick — Tue, 08 Jan 2008 06:09:34 +0000

i don;t understand why this research is done to iq because iq is proven to be bias and not actually acurate. but all and all i am a minority according to this, i have slept with more then one girl and i am still in high school BUT i don;t think my intelgence has anything to do with it, what gets in the way of it happening more is my time, i do sports at a UNI and then keeping marks in 90s plus i have morals i won;t sleep around

i have a friend who is a player and a womenizer, whos every bit as smart as me (iq don;t know but does no more work then me to get the same marks)… but he sleeps around… i think it has more to do with confidence and effort then intellegence…

By: ZZEKON4

ZZEKON4 — Fri, 17 Aug 2007 11:09:53 +0000

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By: SEXPERIENCED IQ

SEXPERIENCED IQ — Sat, 04 Aug 2007 15:44:44 +0000

OK, I was rated approximately 135.
It serems to me that the others here with “higher” IQs are defensive and protective.
I quit HS in my sophomore year as, school was always intensely boring.
They attempted to teach me what I already knew and, as I had a high level of curiosity and being analytical(had my Dad’s calc & trig books all but memorized in 4th or 5th grade), I needed to find other things to hold and/or excite my interest.

I had my initial complete sexual experience at 12.

None of all of the above has braught about any negative aspects to my life.
I don’t need to play goody goody two shoes about anything and haven’t spoken of my IQ in a couple of years.
I don’t need to pump myself up, at least not THIS way;)
Life lived in the real lane is so much more enjoyable.

By: DvO

DvO — Sat, 04 Aug 2007 04:19:19 +0000

“Maybe that suggests that those with the best social skills are those with average IQs”

It doesn’t seem like much of a leap of faith to assume that. People with low IQs have a hard time identifying with the thought processes of those more intelligent, and those with high IQs have the same problem in reverse.

With a lack of empathy, and presumably different interests (as mentioned repeatedly before) social skills just aren’t plausible. I find it a terrible burden to try to be nice to someone who I don’t find mentally challenging at all. I don’t understand why they only want to talk about clothes/Cosmo/cars/whatever, and they just can’t understand anything else.

In general, I think it’s a compound clusterfuck that really does lead to smart kids not getting laid. I’ve found that going to a geeky college has definitely taken a lot of pressure off. I’m no longer the outcast, just average. That doesn’t mean that there aren’t others who are taking up those “exceptional” slots instead and not getting sex.

By: Daniel Kim

Daniel Kim — Fri, 03 Aug 2007 12:15:45 +0000

I was socially awkward in high school and college, but went to a college filled with socially awkward students. It was nice to fit in.

While in high school, I was focused on keeping my grades up, and had many interests, but ‘having sex’ was not a big priority. I looked ahead to the pain that would come from the inevitable separation from the relationship when I went to college, and also made an assessment of my own maturity and ability to maintain a good relationship. It didn’t look like a good prospect.

Many things that are done by the young and impulsive end up haunting them or leaving scars that remain for a lifetime. Perhaps a higher IQ, or its equivalent in actual intelligence or ‘emotional intelligence’ leads to greater circumspection. It seemed clear that I didn’t want to have sex with someone without the committed relationship that should go with it. Even if opportunity had presented itself (extremely unlikely, by the way),
it held the same place in my mind as drinking alcohol: too much for me to handle.

That being said, I had my first kiss when I was 22 years old. Does that make me a loser? Well, we have been married for over 20 years now, so by some measures I am doing well. I also have to say that by that time I was *ready* to be committed to her. The kiss was almost transcendentally wonderful. To have a first kiss that almost makes you faint from its emotional intensity is well worth the wait.

By: CropTillDawn

CropTillDawn — Fri, 03 Aug 2007 00:08:20 +0000

I know my mom is way below 100IQ and my Dad is at least 130IQ. They got pregnant with me when they were 17 & 19, so that messes up all of the research.
My IQ is also over 130 and I dated tons in high school ( hot or not still thinks I’m a 9.1) the kids all thought I was having sex but I sure wasn’t,I did not want to end up like my parents. I married a McSmarty who was a super nerd that never dated,kissed or masturbated until college. He went to Harvey Mudd and the only saving grace was that Scripps was across the way. ;)

By: Arvid Semminson

Arvid Semminson — Thu, 02 Aug 2007 19:20:19 +0000

Oddly enough in high school, I ran a study on student sexual activity. By administering a purity test (just google it if you don’t know what one is) to 75% of the student population (about 600 samples in the one school) I got a pretty good feel for what they were up to. Top of the list for sexual activity was AP girls, followed by lower level boys.