The Amazing Origins of 15 Etiquette Rules

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Nowadays, they’re just considered good manners, but some of our most familiar etiquette rules have long and surprising histories.

1. Saying “Bless You” After Sneezes

This practice dates back to at least 590 CE, when Pope Gregory I commanded that anyone who sneezed immediately be blessed out of fear that it was a sign they had contracted The Plague.

2. Shaking Hands

Shaking hands upon greeting was originally adopted several centuries ago in England as a means of establishing that neither party was armed.

3. Tipping Your Cap

Removing or tipping one’s hat as a sign of respect has a similar origin to that of shaking hands. Knights would flip up their visors and render themselves more vulnerable as a display of friendliness and submission in the face of superiors.

4. Taking Your Hat Off Indoors

In earlier eras, men regularly wore hats outside to protect them from the elements. They removed the hats indoors so these same elements (rain, dirt, etc.) would not fall onto meals or other people.

5. Keeping Your Elbows Off the Table

At medieval feasts, space was at a premium for people looking to dine with lords and ladies, and the long tables were packed to capacity. In such settings, there was simply no way to prop up your elbows without invading your neighbor’s space. Additionally, hunching over your plate of food, with your elbows up, made you seem too eager to eat, like a hungry peasant and not a well-fed member of society.

6. Covering Your Mouth to Yawn

There have been many reasons cited historically to cover your yawns. Yawns were thought to be the soul escaping the body, the evil spirits entering, and yet another sign of the Plague. As early as 1653, yawning became considered a sign of boredom, and thus a rude comment on your present company (and therefore something you’d want to stifle or hide).

7. Allowing a Lady to Walk at a Man's Right Side

The matter of where to walk has been a hot topic in the history of etiquette. Some sources say that the right side, which historically would have been away from a right-handed knight’s sheathed sword, is the honorary side on which a woman or other person deserving of respect should be allowed to walk.

8. Giving a Lady the Interior of the Sidewalk

Today, the rule of allowing a lady to walk at a man's right side is superseded by the practice of granting women the “interior” side away from the perilous road so as not to subject her to splashes or runaway carriages.

9. Bride's Parents Paying for Wedding

In the current and slightly informal era, rules of etiquette seem to matter most in times of matrimony. For example, the bride’s parents are typically expected to foot the bill for the whole affair, a practice which stems from when parents had to come up with appealing dowries in order to entice men to take their daughters off their hands.

10. Showering a Bride with Gifts

Friends of the bride, not her family, traditionally host showers because, long ago, it was a way for a woman to obtain the necessary dowry for a marriage her parents did not approve of. Historically, if a father rejected a man’s request to marry his daughter, the girl’s friends would call on others to “shower” her with gifts so that the marriage could go forward.

11. Touching Glasses for Toasts

There are a couple of explanations for why it is customary to “clink” glasses together as a way of finalizing a toast. The first is that the gesture is a subtler form of spilling a little of your beverage into your neighbor’s glass, a practice that was developed as a sign of faith—if you were trying to poison your dinner companion, you too would be poisoned. A slightly less cynical origin comes from the middle ages; when alcohol was thought to contain literal “spirits” that made those who partook behave outrageously. Bells were thought to drive away such evil sprits and clinking of glasses was the closest approximation on hand.

12. Giving an R.S.V.P. to an Invitation

Why do invitations written in English inevitably include the initials of the French phrase Répondez S’il Vous Plaît? The French phrase for “respond if you please” became a staple of high society’s invitations in the 18th and 19th centuries because French was considered a classier alternative to English for social occasions. Although this habit of using French for everything fell by the wayside, by 1845 these four letters were standing alone on English invitations to request a response.

13. Not Pointing at Someone

Almost all cultures throughout history and around the world consider it to rude to point at someone. The belief is so entrenched that it’s difficult to pinpoint an exact origin, but many explanations center on the ancient idea that you could transfer evil spirits to someone by staring at them with negative thoughts in your mind, a so-called “evil eye.” By pointing at someone, you direct attention and possible “evil eyes” at them.

14. Not Wearing White After Labor Day

Wearing white before Labor Day just makes sense given that lighter colors are the cooler option in the warmer months. But avoiding white after Labor Day is a little less logical. The rule first came about in the late 1800s, when wealthy, high-society women established a series of arbitrary fashion dictates to weed out the new money from the old money, and avoiding white in the winter was just one of them.

15. Pulling Out a Lady’s Chair for Her

Many small chivalrous acts towards women—such as opening doors and pulling out their chairs—stem from the elaborate outfits worn by high society women years ago. These clothes were so restrictive that anyone wearing the fashionable styles required assistance with such things.

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15 Toughest Kennections Quizzes, According to Ken Jennings

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Two times per week, Jeopardy! GOAT Ken Jennings runs 'Kennections,' a quiz featuring seemingly unrelated clues where the answers have one thing in common. To celebrate his 400th Kennection, Jennings scoured the archives and selected 15 of his most challenging quizzes yet. See if you can figure them out.

1. A common denominator

See if you can figure out how ultraviolet-light seeing animals and chess pieces are similar

2. A few degrees of separation

The word for a group of crows and a 5th-century German tribe have one surprising link.

3. Not exactly polar opposites

Adam Sandler and an African island nation share an unexpected trait. 

4. A humerus connection

St. Paul and the Latin name for the city of Troy have more in common than you might think. 

5. A common thread

Stitch together the clues to see how the shape of Hermione Granger’s Time-Turner and an Owl City single are related

6. A tough sell

Aladdin’s magical object and poison-secreting creatures are the stars of this puzzle

7. More than just horse play

Follow the trail to see how a daily newspaper and a Catholic feast are linked.

8. A comedic connection

Deduce the link between a 1959 musical about a striptease legend and a minor prophet. 

9. A puzzle for a wordsmith

See if you can figure out how bridge is related to Richard Nixon. 

10. A proper difference

Frederic Chopin’s native language and a bustling Moroccan port city famed for its delicious oranges share a trait. 

11. An out-of-this-world theme

General George Custer’s middle name and a 1945 Benjamin Britten guide are clues to this astronomical answer. 

12. Sounds like a geographic challenge

A 1989 hit song by The B-52's and the name of Philadelphia’s arena football team will lead you to the correct answer

13. A lyrical link

See if you can figure out how the name B.B. King gave his black Gibson guitars and a beloved Disney Cocker Spaniel are related

14. An elite enigma

Find the link between the island Odysseus desperately wants to reach and the surname of the German royal family that took over the throne of England in 1714. 

15. Common characters

The edible resource you use to power up in Pokemon Go and the leaves often used in Christmas decorations have this in common.